Why I don't have a Bucket List

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The House of Pinheiro Sew Photo Hop theme today is Bucket List.

I don't have one and here is why:


We had some bad news 10 days ago, the cancer that Mum had surgery to cure is back. Unfortunately this means that there is little that can be done, oesophageal cancer is notoriously hard to treat, so tomorrow we see the oncologist to see if there are palliative chemo options available.


Life has changed so hugely in the last ten days yet not changed much at all. The flowers still bloom, the weeds still grow, the children still bicker but my outlook on life has changed. I am a planner and a worrier, always have been, but I am going to change that. I have seen how life can be turned upside down in an instant so I refuse to waste any more precious moments from all my todays worrying and making big plans for tomorrows that may never come.


Obviously a totally unplanned life would be chaos, normal planning will all still happen, but as for big plans, whether they are big sewing projects or places I want to visit, I will see where life takes me. I want to enjoy every day of the journey as much as possible. My Mum was thinking about what she would really really like to do in the time remaining and all that is on her list is to spend as much time as possible with her friends and family. It is not places or things or projects that it boils down to, it is the love of and from others.




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16 comments

  1. So sorry to hear this news about your Mum. I can't imagine. Sounds like she has a good focus and outlook, family and friends are the best ways to spend our time.
    I hope all the other things in life calm down so that you can spend lots of fun and beautiful times with her. x

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  2. I am so very sorry to hear this terrible news. Your mom has her priorities in place, and you do too. Your time together will be ever more special.

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  3. A lovely post. So very sorry to hear your news. Sounds like your mum has her feet on the ground and I'm sure her family and freinds would love to spend their time with her. People have often said to me that you should find ways to do the things you want to do now and not wait. Try to have fun and create lots of nice memories.
    Carolx

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  4. A lovely post. So very sorry to hear your news. Sounds like your mum has her feet on the ground and I'm sure her family and freinds would love to spend their time with her. People have often said to me that you should find ways to do the things you want to do now and not wait. Try to have fun and create lots of nice memories.
    Carolx

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  5. Thinking of you, hope you are able to make the most of your time together as a family. Lots of love and best wishes xx

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  6. What horrible news. I hope your Mum is as pain free as possible and that you can enjoy what time you do have together. Lots of love and best wishes.

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  7. Sending you love Alison, for you and your family. I share many of the qualities you mention. Thank you for the reminder of how important it is to enjoy the moment. I hope there are many more to enjoy with your mum xx

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  8. I arrived here via Carol at Tales From Spring Cottage's reading list. I'm very sorry to read your news. I don't have a bucket list either. My Dad died suddenly and unexpectedly 20 years ago, aged 55. That experience shaped my outlook on life and I do my utmost to make the most of, and to appreciate, every day.

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    1. Thanks Scarlet and I am so sorry to hear that you lost your Dad so young :( A x

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  9. I'm so sorry to hear about your mum. I hope you have lots of lovely times together. Xxx

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  10. I am so sorry Alison! I am keeping you and your family in my thoughts.

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